Thursday, June 07, 2012

On Getting Married

I read an article yesterday entitled, “When is the Right Time to get Married?” Honestly, I was not surprised on the facts stated in the article because I already heard those things through my friends.

In the article, they cited things when you should get married.
   - When you are totally, madly, completely, head-over-heels in love.
   - When you are mature enough to understand what marriage really means.
   - When you are in a real relationship where both of you are level-headed people,
     who respect each other.
   - When you feel you’re ready.

But I believe that they missed mentioning one thing in the article and that is “do you see yourself with that person for the rest of your life” because “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Mark 10:9)

We know that “divorce” is not new to us. There are lots of couples around the world experiencing this situation. So, how can we avoid this?

First, put God at the center of your relationship. Let God be the third party in your relationship, not other woman or man. When you make God your top priority, everything will be well.

Second, Commitment. I like what Pastor Ru shared during a youth gig last year. He said, “When the feeling is gone, commitment begins”. Maybe there will come a time when you will feel that you no longer love your partner but always remember the promises/vows you declared to each other.

Third, Open Communication. There is a saying in the Book of Proverbs that I always say to my friends and siblings, “An open rebuke is better than hidden love!” (Proverbs 27:5) If you have something you do not like to your partner, say it immediately to him/her. Maybe you only misunderstood her actions and words. Also, a relationship with an open communication can help you know your partner more.

Fourth, Forgive. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32) When your partner confessed his mistakes/faults, talk to him/her on how to solve it; do not argue. Issues can be settled if you have a forgiving heart.

Fifth, Appreciate your Partner. A simple token or a word of appreciation can mean a lot to your partner.

The things that I shared above are just my own opinion. I know that there are lots of successful married couples out there who can counsel and help you when you are experiencing this kind of situation in your marriage/relationship. As doctors always say, “prevention is better than cure”.

I also want to share this quote from my mentor/leader, “Love is a choice. Not a feeling.”

Praise God for the gift of marriage!

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

FYI: I’m not yet married, but I’m looking forward for it. *wink*


For God’s gifts and his call are irrevocable. – Romans 11:29, NIV

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